I should have written this on April Fools Day since I am loving referred to as the April Fool’s joke that never went away. Ten years ago I started over, basically I lost everything. Jobs that I had were only $5 an hour and housing was either a hotel room or a travel trailer. I was forced into bankruptcy because I had an ex-husband that was true to form – said one thing and did another by signing a legal document agreeing to pay the joint debt and then didn’t.
But I was given the opportunity to expand upon what I was learning – web design and development. It wasn’t an easy road but I have had the constant support. Even to this day if I think I want to consider taking a job in a new location I have the full support of my husband – instead of being asked “why do you want to do that?”
Over the past ten years I have tried to get Megan to keep the lines of communication open with her father, calling and reminding her to just call him to call him, ask him if he wants to do something with him when he is in town and on and on. Quite the opposite of his attitude with her and the other two. Megan’s uncle has been more of a father to her than he has been in these past few years. She has gotten to the point that she feels uncomfortable calling him because she really doesn’t know him at all. She tells me stories of when she was little that she was almost afraid of being left with him because she didn’t know who he was.
If I had one thing to do over again, I probably would have let him drag me through the mud with whatever “evidence” he had against me. Granted, I probably would have been dragging his ass back to court for not paying child support. I never pushed the issue on child support when Megan was with us – my husband didn’t want his money. I never pushed this issue of his failure to provide health insurance for her. Yes, he did have her covered off and on – but it was more off then on.
Today I have a husband that feels that being home with family is more important than money, that hugs are better than buying things, and supports me in what I want to do in life.
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