Megan’s Blog is in the permanent Links – http://collegegirl71087.blogspot.com/. I think she is learning to use it as a place to vent.

Do your research on personal blogs – then reread my very first post to see what got me started. As you go through my posts you’ll see that my blog is the voice no one listened to, the gallery is a place to share pictures, and maybe some day I’ll finish my recipe section. To those of you who appreciate my blog, I send my love.

The comments are actually turned on in moderated mode – so say what you want to say – I’ll read it – heck I might even publish it. Or is that what you are afraid of?

Got to go – it’s time for my electroshock therapy.

Looks like a plan is coming together for Megan’s graduation weekend. My sister is flying into Nashville Friday morning. I’ll drive up from Birmingham and meet Megan at the hotel we are staying at. She’s going to borrow her uncle’s car to meet me there. Gee – you would think that since her father is in town he could – at the very least – drop her off there. But I guess it’s going to work out for Megan’s best. We’ll pick up Kelley, go eat lunch and then get checked into the hotel. Then Megan and Kelley will go over to her father’s apartment to pick up what she needs for the weekend while I stay at the hotel and wait for them to come back. Remember, I’ve been told I’m not to go anywhere near the apartment – how nice, eh? At least my sister will get to see where Megan lives. Then Megan will bring her stuff back to the hotel. After that I’ll follow her over to where her uncle works so she can return his car. Then the 3 of us may go watch a movie or something. There are no plans to include sister #1 or sister #2 – they already told her they will see her Saturday.

Saturday morning Megan is planning on going and getting her hair done. She has to be at the church (where the graduation exercises will be held) at 12:30 for rehearsal. The plan is for Megan to ride with her uncle so Kelley and I will have my car. The original thinking was I was going alone and might need to escape. With Kelley with me it might be a little easier to deal with the cold shoulder treatment from daughter #1 and daughter #2.

After the graduation – the three of us will stop off at the hotel so Megan can change into the dress she bought for her graduation dinner at the Rainforest Cafe. That’s when it might get dicey – but then it most likely be another Cold Shoulder show. Trying to discuss the summer plans should be a real treat.

Yeah, sure it’s been my daily prayer that daughter #1 and daughter #2 will have a change of heart but as long as they are in daddy’s pockets it won’t change. Daughter #2 turned her nose up at how I had to live after the divorce – we were doing the best we could at the time and a travel trailer was all we could afford – we’ve come a long way since those days The wedding I couldn’t attend has long been broken and daughter #1 is remarried.

So instead I pray that we all get laryngitis…

Yet another case of he said, he said. Really makes you wonder who’s saying what. Megan has been telling me for weeks that when her father came into town for her graduation he was going to order her car for her. (I’ll discuss my feelings on this later). This information was according to her uncle (I see a pattern happening here). So when Megan finally talks to her father about it he says he never said that (another pattern perhaps?). So now Megan is mad at her father and her uncle.

So lets break this down – Megan is EXPECTING her father to buy her a car. Okay – she may have a point since he did it for her two other sisters. Of course, I have problems with the whole thing for many reasons – one being it leads all of them to expect him to do this kind of stuff all the time. And when he doesn’t they get mad. But a bigger issue I have with this is it teaches them ZERO responsibility, ZERO appreciation, ZERO work ethic. And it definately doesn’t improve the lines of communication between Megan and her father if she’s always calling him about something money related. I don’t know how many times I have told her – she needs to call just to call.

I should have made a bet – with whom I don’t know – but my money is on my other two daughters giving me the silent treatment at Megan’s graduation. But much to Megan’s relief – she just talked to daughter #2 – and was told they (daughter #2, daughter #1 and the ex.) are not going to speak to me while I’m there. Megan wanted to know if I can handle that – I wonder if any of them even thought about how my sister is going to handle it? They are all too busy worrying about themselves to think about how their actions might effect others.

Part of me wanted my sister to see how they would behave towards me. A tiny part of me thought they might try to be nice to me in a twisted way to make it look like I was the one with the attitude but I knew better than that.

But like I said – Megan’s relieved that a verbal altercation won’t happen. Sadly, her sisters will still be causing a “scene” with their behavior.

It goes without much ado that I wasn’t kept abreast on the whereabouts of the girls. The ex went so far as to change his phone number (when he had a phone) and the number wasn’t passed on to me. I was within minutes of calling the police to have them check on daughter #2 and Megan because daughter #2 spent the evening paging me every 15 minutes with the old phone number. In hindsight I should have because they were left home alone. Granted daughter #2 was 15 and Megan was 10.

Medical Care:
Husband shall maintain medical and hospitalization insurance for the benefit of each minor child – All medical and hospitalization deductible and other medical and hospitalization expenses of the children which are not covered by insurance shall be paid for by Husband.

– I still have a BOX full of medical bills for Megan that I got stuck with. Thank goodness for Alabama’s AllKids health care and school free lunches. Funny, one of those disparaging remarks that shouldn’t have been made was about how I should have been more financially responsible and I wouldn’t have had to file for bankruptcy.

So should Part 3 cover who was responsible for what debt? Perhaps I could cover just the ones that the collection agencies called me on because the ex didn’t have a phone. I could break it down to every account the ex had agreed to pay and defaulted on. I had to carry the pages with me when we bought the house – thank goodness the mortgage company held some value in the documents my ex signed.